No. 146

Dating Yourself

On Friday, I made my first date with my business. In the morning and afternoon, I scheduled uninterrupted time to focus on my business. No scrambling around reacting to emails, no phone calls, just me and my darling business.

Talk about productive brainstorming time! I got more done in those hours and felt less frazzled than I had in weeks.

And this was real working on my business work. New projects, new packages, new ways of creating amazing experiences for my clients.

So I began to wonder, what if I made dates with all the other parts of myself, not just Brandi the Entrepreneur?

I started dating myself.

On Saturday, I had a date with the writer in me. We wrote poetry, some of it incredibly bad. But really, it just felt so good to be writing again.

There was time with the archer on Sunday. Granted, I was snowed in, but we worked on some simple things together: release, mental game. (Archer really feels like it’s 90% mental game, 10% process and skill.)

In three days, I felt more like myself than I had in months.

Dedicating specific time to all the things I love about my life and who I am is creating a deeper connection to me.

I lost myself a little bit in my last relationship. Brandi the Flirt? Totally locked away because my ex was a bit insecure (by no fault of his own). Brandi the Writer? No time for her. Brandi the Art Lover? There just wasn’t much there for her. Brandi the F-it-I’m-Going-to-Read-All-Day? She never had time on the schedule.

All these parts of me I had locked away. I’m done with it.

I say it’s time to break that door down and start really spending time with myself again.

I think it’ll be a love affair that lasts my whole lifetime.

About brandi

Brandi is a digital strategist, website developer, and founder of Alchemy+Aim, a company that helps entrepreneurs and business owners elevate their online presence and enhance their digital experience. Her academic background in theatre, philosophy and physics was the perfect foundation for launching her business, where she’s worked with Brené Brown, Laverne Cox, Judy Smith, and other notable thought leaders since 2013. She is an advocate for using technology in ways that humanize, connect and serve people as well as for asking deeper philosophical questions and teaching others to think more broadly about impact when they create, particularly in STEAM fields.

4 thoughts on “Dating Yourself

  1. I love everything about this post. And very badly need to take it to heart + take some similar measures in my own life. I’ve been chasing this mythical thing that I’ve been calling “taking some me-time” that never seems to happen. somehow re-imagining it and thinking about the parts of me I’ve been neglecting and pinpointing those parts (bonnie the writer, bonnie the artist, bonnie who meditates and does yoga everyday etc.)… somehow this flipped a switch in my head and I’m going to spend some time processing this and planning it out.

    I really love often how your posts and ideas cut to the heart of a problem or truth. it”s a gift really. <3


  2. This is a great idea. Love it., and it is definitely the best part of being single. I feel like I have so many parts to myself too, and the idea of fitting time in my life for a relationship with a man right now just sounds daunting. I simply have no idea where I’d fit him in. I love having time just for writing, just for reading, just for being outside, just for learning French. Here’s to having great relationships with all the things that make us who we are!

  3. I love this post and that it came from you, Brandi. I’m so happy to hear that you’re doing this and feeling so good about life : ) I’ve read on multiple occasions that the best thing to do for yourself is to date yourself. I’ve noticed that every “date” I have with myself is always a huge success, haha! I think I should plan some dates in the near future.

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