How to be an entrepreneur and date someone who’s not
A lot happened in August. I drove down to Asheville twice for mastermind retreats. I’m still processing losing my beloved Marty (and helping my other cats through their grief too). I discovered that I’m building an empire with my business. And I started dating someone.
This someone — we’ll use his first initial of G for now — is not an entrepreneur. He has a job he loves that has a solid pension and lots of vacation time. He has plans and dreams and the drive to potentially move into another position. But he is not an entrepreneur.
How is he ever going to understand this business thing I’m doing?
Having my own business has meant late nights and long hours and vacations that aren’t really vacations because I need to answer emails. Now, I’m getting some great systems into place to help things run smoothly (and help them run without me around sometimes), but I’m not there yet. I still have to give up a Sunday here and there to push forward with some projects and position myself to handle the influx of new clients and emails and projects.
I think G is already beginning to understand that he’s not only dating me but also in a relationship with my business. I’ve had to disappoint him once already and miss a friend’s party because I needed to work an extra day and make progress with some projects I had already promised myself to.
This is just reality for me: I love what I do, and while it’s not all I am, it’s important to me.
So how am I handling all of this? (And keeping this guy who doesn’t quite understand the entrepreneur thing around?)
- I’m drawing boundaries. When I’m off and spending time with him, I’m off. No emails or calls. Just us.
- I’m putting systems into place so when I’m off, my brilliant team is handling things.
- I talk about what’s happening, what I’m doing, and why it’s so important to him. He may not be in it, but I can share my excitement and challenges with him.
I love my business, but I am so much more than my business.
I’m more than a website developer or business owner or entrepreneur. I’m bigger than that. And creating space to nurture all the relationships in my life is key to my health and happiness.
And I’m pretty sure G and I will figure out the rest along the way.