Time Together…and Apart

One of the hardest things about a new relationship is that you suddenly have this incredibly awesome person you want to spend all of your time with. You make each other laugh, you have fantastic conversations, and there’s a good amount of kissing involved. You feel lit up and stunning.

Wait — I said that’s one of the hardest things? It sounds more like one of the best.

But it’s easy to go to extremes and discover most of your free time is now devoted to this new person. Time you once spent reading novels or seeing friends or exploring on your own is suddenly gone. I’ve certainly fallen into this trap many times in the past.

Over the weekend, I met up with a good friend and we talked about this. He’s trying to navigate a new relationship while balancing it with his work and the time he needs to himself. There doesn’t seem to be an easy solution. We all differ in how much time we need to ourselves — introverts a little more, extroverts a little less — because we recharge in different ways.

I haven’t figured out the answer to this conundrum for myself, so I would love to hear from you:

How well do you think you balance time together with your partner and time apart? Do you have any tips for handling the situation when you find you need more alone time — or time together? Do you think how much time you spend together need to be established early or can that change?

{awesome photo above taken by the very talented Susan of en pointe photography}

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Jane Reaction

(logo and original branding) is a graphic design and art director who works with with small businesses and creative entrepreneurs, creating cohesive and interesting brands and websites.

Carrie Coleman

(photography) is a wedding photographer, whose goal is to capture the visual expression of a couple's love through timeless, organic images. She is based in Charlottesville, Virginia.